Top 6 Questions you need to ask when you're looking for a wedding venue.
Hey Brides, what's up, it's me. It's Kate Roberto, the creative visionary designer for Kate and Amber.
I wanted to talk to you about the main six questions that you need to be asking yourself every time you are interviewing and touring different venues for your wedding.
So, there are two different types, right? You're going to have a one venue wedding, which is where you're going to have literally everything all encompassed in one location. You're going to have the ceremony, reception, cocktail hour, all in one place. Even, honestly, you could have your photos there as well. You know, so that's going to make things a lot simpler for you, your wedding party and all your guests.
But sometimes you're going to have to go with a two-venue location. A lot of times this means those of you with religions or a family or your partner's family that have requirements that you need to be married in a church. Or some sort of religious, I don't want to say just a church, but you know what I mean. Where you need to be married there, right? And then you go elsewhere to a different facility or venue for your actual reception and cocktails and photos. Which requires a lot more coordinating, and you also have to have transportation rentals depending on how many guests you have. I mean there's a lot of details on that.
In looking at your different venues, whether it's ceremony or reception, let's just say venues, period. Okay. You always want to ask yourself;
1. do you have a personal connection? Is there something there that's maybe, that was where you had your first date, or this is where you met, this is where you go all the time for vacations and stuff like that. Or where you go to unwind as a couple. Or maybe you're doing and having your wedding in a family member's home and backyard, which, super common, happens all the time. And there's nothing wrong with that, but a lot of times that's a connection that a lot of people put as a high factor on their list in choosing their venues.
2.is it even available on the date that you and your partner want to get married? If not, but you really like the venue, or really love the venue or you have to be there, you may have to settle with going on a different date, hopefully within the timeline. Really close in the timeline of when you want to get married. Some venues, if it's all about the venue and you just want to be there, you can change your date and have it be a different time of year or be at that actual season and wait another year. Your choice.
3. Also, you want to think about the capacity. Can the venue actually accommodate the number of people, of guests? But also including yourself and the different vendors that you're working with. It's a space, right, it's a safety thing. They also need to be able to, and also another thing besides capacity, and I'm also going off a little long on this tangent, is that you also have to think about, do you need to have something that accommodates handicap? Because you're going to need ramps.
You need to make sure that when you check the capacity, that you're really doing capacity based on the number of guests that you are inviting, versus the number of guests that actually show up. As we all know, when we throw parties and shindigs, we have people that we invite, but there's a percentage that doesn't even show up. And there's a small percentage that does, and you're like, "You didn't even respond. I had no idea you were coming." I've got some friends like that. I really do. I'm not pointing anybody out, I'm not calling anybody names, but they know who they are.
4.personal taste, right? So this comes down to a la Marie Kondo, does this venue bring you joy? But does it? Does it creep you out? Do some of those stain glass windows kind of creep you out, you know? Is there something with the lighting and even the architecture that just feels kind of dark and depressive and you're having issues with that? Some people are very in touch with their feelings and their beings in space. Not out in space, but in the space that they're in, and they're sensitive to that. And there's nothing wrong with that, but that's a factor. That's a factor, you guys, I'm sorry.
5.You want to also think about if there is any kind of accommodations nearby? Let's just say, you're going to have some out of town guests. You will. Are there hotels, motels nearby, that they can get to and stay at and not be cumbersome? Is there a parking lot or garage nearby? That's something that I had to deal with at my wedding. I got married in Santa Cruz, and we had nothing but public parking and it was all paid parking. So, I had to reserve, in the parking lot across the street, I had to purchase discounted coupons, parking coupon tickets, for all of my guests. That's 200 plus guests that I had to pay for their parking. I mean, that's something to consider as well.
6. I mean there's so many things. If you're going to be choosing a venue that carries kind of everything, know that some of it may be ala carte. You're going to pay extra when you're renting it for more than a couple hours, for just a ceremony, versus more like five to eight hours for the full wedding. Know that's time for set up and clean up is included. Sometimes you have to pay extra if you want to have a longer evening. And a longer, you know, just kind of have fun and dance. I mean it could be easily a few extra hundred dollars, just to have another hour or two, later in the evening, so nobody feels rushed in the wedding, I dealt with that. I paid extra.
When you're shopping and doing these tours, you really need to have these things in mind. You need to have a really good estimate of the number of your guest lists. Have an idea of that. Know if you have any family members, any of them, if not yourself included or your partner, that needs to have a ramp for handicap access. That's going to be needed.
So really again, things to consider when you're looking and you're shopping at your different venues. Do you have a personal connection? Either you and your partner together or if it's family, home and back yard, great.
Is it even available on the date that you guys want to get married? Is it available? If not, do you go somewhere else and do you make it work and choose a different timeline? I know, that's tough.
Can it hold the number of guests that you're even inviting? Just ignore who's showing up, because usually who shows up is less, typically less, than who you invite. If it can accommodate the number of people you invite, then you should be pretty golden and not have to worry about it too much.
Does it bring you joy? Being in the venue. It's a silly question, right? But does it bring you joy? I mean, would you really rent a place if you feel kind of weird and kind of creepy and awkward? No, of course not. Get it off your list.
Accommodations. Outside accommodations for your guests. Are there local motel, hotels, that are not that far away from you in this venue. And also is there parking nearby? Because everybody needs to be able to park their car. And is there enough of it? That's another one you got to look into.
It starts to become overwhelming when you start planning your wedding. Guurl I get it, I've been there. I've done that. But honestly, once you get through some of those bare bones like the venue, the dates, the guest list, and your dress, things start to get a little bit smoother. A little bit smoother. As long as you don't put too much pressure on yourself.
So that's what I wanted kind of talk to you about. I hope it helps you out a little bit, in your search, your journey, and good luck. Have fun. That's the best part. Have fun with it.